Thursday, August 23, 2012

I Like Being Mormon

I was reading through some of my posts, and while there is nothing I really disagree with, I do think my "screaming into my virtual pillow" aspect of my posts do tend to show one side of me.

Actually in most ways the stuff I post here is a very small percent of who and what I am.  If something didn't catch me as unique enough, it probably wouldn't have been posted.  Thus the long time between posts.

So one thing I want to make clear:

I love being Mormon!

I can complain about the 10% raise I would get.
I can gripe about the fact I am up at 5:30 am on Sunday to be to Bishopric meetings.
I can roll my eyes at some of the ridiculous things about or from within the church.
I could even complain about some of the "limitations" that living the LDS lifestyle can seem to create.

But.

And that is the important word here.  But.

In reality, all of those things become very small compared to the things I get out of it.

Even though I am in some of the more turbulent times of my life, I have a place to go where there is peace.  It draws my family close, and allows us to spend time together.  There is great joy in that.

I don't feel limited.  Sure there are things I would like to do and choose not to because of my faith.  That said, in most cases, it is a very good thing I DON'T do those things.  Particularly when I look at the consequences that others face because of those choices.

I guess in reality, I can still do them.  No one is stopping me.  If I want to drive race cars on Sunday, I would be driving race cars on Sunday.  By choosing not to though, I help keep my priorities in order, and it helps me stay happy.

Just to be clear, I don't fault those who do race on Sunday, but it is a choice I make.  Likewise things like not drinking or smoking.  I love the smell of a good pipe tobacco, but it just isn't worth it to me. 

Other things are more important, and I guess that is what the practical day to day of being a Mormon is.  It is keeping your priorities in order.  When you have done that, you will find real lasting joy in the things you do.

So.  In short.  I am actually quite happy, and very glad to be where and who I am.

That doesn't mean I don't need to scream into my pillow from time to time.

Monday, August 20, 2012

Inapproprate Job Actions #1: Quitting by Email

OK, this is a plague among us.  I don't care if it makes me sound old, but the current generation of 20somethings are very much concerning me.

Here is the deal.  When an employer hires you, they invest time, money and energy in getting things ready for you to begin your employment with them.  To email them the day that you are meant to start your employment and turn down the job is inappropriate, disrespectful and wrong.

First, when you accept a job unless you have prepared the potential employer that you will be continuing your search for work so they can make an informed decision, you now have a job.  Stop looking.  You have committed and should honor that commitment.  It is dishonest to accept employment and then bail.

Second, under no circumstances is emailing your "resignation" the day you should be starting appropriate in any circumstance.  On those rare occasions where another opportunity is of significantly higher value that you have determined it is worth breaking your commitment (as the man said to the woman, we have determined what you are, now we are just negotiating) you should give as much advance notice as possible.  If that is not possible, then you owe it to those who were willing to give you an opportunity to explain yourself in person.

I have historically thought as an employer, better to lose them now than two weeks or months into it.  I still think that.  But the level of disrespect and lack of honor is becoming rampant.  Have some pride in who you are, and be willing to stand up to your problems.  If you are going to make an unpleasant decision, fine, but have the guts to own it and mitigate its effects on others to the amount you are able.